The secret to time management comes down to two realities.
The FIRST reality is this: You can’t do it all.
- You can’t do everything you want to do.
- You can’t do everything you need to do.
- And you certainly can’t do everything everyone else wants you to do.
Once you embrace this reality, it helps you manage the time that you do have with a little more confidence and a lot less guilt.
Your time is finite. You will always have to make choices. They key is making the right choices.
Which brings me to…
The SECOND reality: If it’s important enough to you, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.
“I can tell by looking at your bank account and your calendar what you care about.
Because that’s where you spend your time and your money.”
– Dave Ramsey
Maybe that second reality seems off because you have things that are important to you but you can’t seem to find a way to make them happen. Maybe every waking minute is taken up for someone else, or work, or your many responsibilities.
Often, when I feel stressed and frustrated because I’m not spending time on the things that I care about the most, I take a look at my schedule. It’s pretty eye-opening to see what gets my time. If I am honest, there are a lot of other motivations that I have that creep to the top of my priority list.
- Pleasing people
- Being the hero
- Pursuing [Pinterest] Perfectionism
- Feeling Needed
If your time isn’t going towards your most important things, then look at where you do currently spend your time. It may just reveal something deeper about you.
Because whatever is most important will always make it to the top of the list.
The problem with time management in your life (and mine!) isn’t that we aren’t doing enough, and it’s not that we’re doing too much.
Often, it’s that we’re doing the wrong things.
Once we embrace these two realities, we can look at our calendar and start to schedule things differently. Then the really important things can begin to get the most limited, valuable gift that we can give: our time.
If it’s important enough, we’ll find a way.