I know why you’re so busy. It’s probably the same reason I’m so busy.
It’s not because we have too much going on. It’s because we have the wrong things going on.
We live in a world where you have more options of good things, great things even, to get involved with and spend your time on. There is no shortage of awesome things to get into.
But while our options are infinite, our time is not. Our opportunities keep growing exponentially, and our time stays fixed at the exact same 24 hours in a day. So if you want to be less stressed, rushed and busy, you’ve got to figure out how to decide which of the endless exciting and awesome things you’re going to be a part of. How do you know when to say yes to something or when to stand your ground and say no?
If you’re like me, then you naturally want to say yes to everything! Next time you’re faced with a decision, ask yourself these five questions. They may help you realize that your best answer isn’t always a yes.
1. How will this affect my family? Your time is not just your time; it’s your family’s time too. How will this affect them?
2. Is this in line with my goals? Is this opportunity moving me toward the things I am actively working on in my life?
3. Does this compete with a higher priority? If it does, there may not be room for a yes this time.
4. Is this important? It may be good, worthy and important to someone else, but is this thing important to you?
5. Do I want to do it? Guess what? You get to ask yourself that! Do you want to do it? Because if you don’t, that’s a very strong case for saying no.
So the next time someone asks you to pick up extra work, volunteer at your church, bring food to your child’s school, attend an social event, or add anything new to your already full plate, ask yourself these five questions before saying yes. You may just find that even though it’s a good thing, it’s not the right thing for you.